Whether you like them or not, the numbers show reality. They exemplify what is important to you. You might say being home with your children is the most important thing to you, but unless you are spending money consciously then the numbers don’t lie.
Why do people avoid numbers like the plague? Because it makes them feel crappy! Realizing that you aren’t doing well financially hurts. It makes you feel stupid, or like you can’t do anything right. Even if you are doing ok, shouldn’t you be doing better?
First things first. You are not the numbers. Your financial statements don’t determine your value. You are a smart person. You care about your family. You are a mom trying to be everything to everyone.
The numbers show the truth. They may mean your choices weren’t smart. There are two reasons why we don’t make smart choices with money.
#1 Misinformation or you didn’t have enough knowledge
#2 You let emotions make your decision.
We all make bad decisions in our lives. No one is perfect. So don’t worry if your financial life isn’t healthy right now. That’s why you are here.
The only thing you can do about your past mistakes is to learn from them. Being willing to accept your mistakes is an important part of accepting yourself.
Nathaniel Brayden from the Six Pillars oSelf-Esteem says:
“We must remind ourselves that accepting does not necessarily mean liking, enjoying, or conditioning. I can accept what is and determine to evolve from there.”
Being able to accept reality is the precursor to growth.
Do not ignore the reasons for your mistakes and say, “Everyone makes mistakes, I won’t worry about it.” Those words are a recipe for disaster. You need to understand why you made them so you can make better future decisions.
This is how I made the changes necessary to become debt free. I was able to say, “Wow I made some bad decisions!”
I thought they were right at the time with the information I had. But now looking back, they weren’t going to help me live the life I want. So I swallowed some pride and decided to move forward.
Now when I look back at those same mistakes, I smile. I still know they weren’t smart, but I know I crushed them. Crushing your mistakes is a great feeling! I’m glad I made them, just so I could overcome them.
How do you feel when you look at the numbers?